My Girlfriend is Pregnant; Now What?

You just got the word. She’s pregnant.

Moments like this can make your world feel like it’s spinning. You may not have much control over what’s happening, but you do have real influence. How you respond and support your partner right now can say more about your character than almost anything else you’ve faced so far.

That’s why it’s important to stay calm, think clearly, and respond instead of reacting. This blog can help you understand what she may be feeling, what your next steps could look like, and where you can go from here.

Is My Girlfriend Pregnant?

Before doing anything, it’s important to be sure your girlfriend is actually pregnant. If you haven’t already, take a pregnancy test.

If she needs one, Hope for Life Pregnancy Center in Camden, SC offers lab-quality pregnancy tests at no cost.

If she’s already taken a test and it came back positive, the next step is to confirm the pregnancy with an ultrasound.

Why is that important? Because a positive test only detects pregnancy hormones, it doesn’t confirm that the pregnancy is viable or developing in the uterus.

Hope for Life Pregnancy Center can help you find a place to complete your ultrasound.

What Not To Do When Your Girlfriend Is Pregnant

Right now, you may feel like everything is out of your hands. That’s a normal reaction. But before thinking about what to do next, here are a few things not to do.

Don’t Walk Away

When stress hits, it’s natural to want to escape. But she needs you now more than ever. This situation feels heavy for both of you—but she’s carrying a unique kind of pressure that’s hard to describe. Simply staying present can make a bigger difference than you realize.

Don’t Fight

Tension and fear can easily turn into arguments. Try not to let that happen. She doesn’t need you to have all the answers; she needs to know she’s not alone. Listen first. Respond with care. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is just sit beside her and listen.

What Options Are There?

Ultimately, the decision about the pregnancy belongs to your partner. Generally, her options include:

• Carrying and parenting the child

• Creating an adoption plan

• Choosing abortion

Statistically, unmarried women with an unplanned pregnancy choose to carry about 60% of the time and abort about 40% of the time.¹

It’s vital that she feels no pressure from you in any direction. When women feel pressured toward abortion, many report lasting emotional pain and trauma afterward.² It’s her body and her choice—but she shouldn’t have to make that choice alone.

You can be part of helping her think clearly, ask questions, and explore every option with support and accurate information.

“I’m Not Ready To Be A Dad.”

It’s okay to feel that way. Most men don’t feel ready at first.

Fatherhood has a way of drawing out a deeper strength and purpose that many men didn’t know they had. You don’t have to be perfect. You just need to stay present, willing, and open to learning.

Don’t let fears about money, freedom, or the future cloud what could be one of the most meaningful chapters of your life. There are resources, classes, and community supports available to help you build stability and confidence.

Many men later say they regret walking away from their child. Few ever regret stepping up to be a father.

Support in Camden, SC

You’re not alone in this. Hope for Life Pregnancy Center in Camden provides confidential support for both you and your partner—free of charge.

Services include:

• Relationship and pregnancy decision counseling

• Fatherhood mentorship

• Material assistance, such as baby supplies and parenting resources

Reach out today to schedule an appointment. Sometimes the most courageous thing you can do is take the next small step.